Doa Mujarrab untuk Dapat Rizki dan Tunai Hutang
Doa dan amalan ini saya kutip dari kitab Mujarrabat Imamiyah. Kitab
yang telah ditajrib (dieksperimen) oleh banyak ulama, kaum mukminin
dan muslimin. Memang syarat yang pertama adalah keyakinan yang kuat
dan istiqamah dalam mengamalkannya sesuai dengan aturan yang telah
ditentukan. Terus terang, saya pernah mempraktekkan amalan ini,
alhamdulillah saya mendapat solusi yang tak terduga sebelumnya, dan
menurut ukuran saya, rizki itu cukup besar. Saya menangis terharu
dalam sujud syukur. Ya Allah, Engkau Maha Dermawan, diluar kemampuan
pikiran hamba-Nya. Setiap saya punya hajat yang berkait dengan rizki,
saya mengamalkan amalan ini dan ditambah "shalat Istighfar" (caranya
ada di blog ini). Alhamdulillah saya memperoleh apa yang saya
hajatkan, kadang-kadang singkat waktunya, kadang-kadang lama waktunya.
Allah Maha Maha Mengetahui hajat kita yang sebenarnya, waktunya
mendesak atau tidak. Karena itu kita butuh kesabaran, keyakinan yang
kuat dan istiqamah dalam mengamalkan.
Yang mulia Sayyid Akbar At-Tabrizi mengatakan: Sesungguhnya ayat
tentang kerajaan (surat Al-Imran: 26-27), juga jika ditulis dan
bawanya, dapat meluaskan pintu rizki. Selanjutnya beliau mengatakan:
amalan ini telah ditajrib (dieksperimen) berkali-kali. Ayat dan cara
mengamalkannya sebagai berikut:
Bismillâhir Rahmânir Rahîm
Allâhumma shalli `ala Muhammadin wa âli Muhammad
Qulillâhumma âlikal mulki tu'til mulka man tasyâu wa tanzi'ul mulka
mimman tasyâu, wa tu'izzu man tasyâu wa tudzillu man tasyâu, biyadikal
khayru innaka `alâ kulli syay-in qadîr. Tûlijul layla fin nahâri wa
tûlijun nahâra fil layli, wa tukhrijul hayya minal mayti wa tukhrijul
mayyita minal hayyi wa tarzuqu man tasyâu bighayri hisâb.
Katakanlah: "Wahai Tuhan Yang mempunyai kerajaan, Engkau berikan
kerajaan kepada orang yang Engkau kehendaki dan Engkau cabut kerajaan
dari orang yang Engkau kehendaki. Engkau muliakan orang yang Engkau
kehendaki dan Engkau hinakan orang yang Engkau kehendaki. Di tangan
Engkaulah segala kebajikan. Sesungguhnya Engkau Maha Kuasa atas segala
sesuatu.
Engkau masukkan malam ke dalam siang dan Engkau masukkan siang ke
dalam malam. Engkau keluarkan yang hidup dari yang mati, dan Engkau
keluarkan yang mati dari yang hidup. Dan Engkau beri rezki siapa yang
Engkau kehendaki tanpa perhitungan (batas)." (Ali-Imran: 26-27).
Caranya Mengamalkan
Pertama: Dua ayat tersebut dibaca (40 kali) selama 40 hari.
Kedua: Setiap sesudah membaca dua ayat tersebut membaca Yâ Allâh (3
kali). Kemudian membaca doa berikut (3 kali):
Antallâhu lâ ilâha illâ Anta wahdaka lâ syarîka lak, tajabbarta ay
yakûna laka walad, wa ta'âlayta ay yakûna laka syarîk, wa tazhzhamta
ay yakûna laka wazîr. Yâ Allâhu Yâ Allâhu Yâ Allâh, iqdhi hâjatî
bihaqqi Muhammadin wa âlihi shalawâtuka `alayhi wa `alayhim ajma'în.
Engkaulah Allah tiada Tuhan kecuali Engkau Yang Maha Esa tida sekutu
bagi-Mu. Terlalu Agung Engkau untuk mempunyai anak, Terlalu Tinggi
Engkau untuk memiliki sekutu, Terlalu Besar Engkau untuk mempunyai
menteri. Ya Allah Ya Allah Ya Allah, tunaikan hajatku dengan hak
Muhammad dan keluarga Muhammad. Semoga semua shalawat-Mu selalu
tercurahkan kepadanya dan kepada mereka semua.
Untuk Menunaikan hutang
Syeikh Ath-Thabrasi meriwayatkan bahwa Mu'adz bin Jabal berkata: Pada
suatu hari aku tidak shalat Jum'at bersama Rasulullah saw. Lalu beliau
bertanya: "Wahai Mu'adz, mengapa kamu tidak shalat Jum'at? Mu'adz
menjawab: Orang yahudi menghadangku di pintu rumahku karena hutangku,
lempengan emas, sudah jatuh tempo. Tidak ada yang menaruh kasihan
padaku selainmu, orang yahudi itu mau memasukkan aku ke penjara.
Kemudian Rasulullah saw bersabda: "Wahai Mu'adz, maukah kamu Allah
yang menunaikan hutangmu? Mu'ad menjawab: Ya mau, ya Rasulullah.
Rasulullah saw bersabda: "Bacalah (ayat tersebut di atas):
Kemudian membaca:
Yâ Rahmânad dun-ya wak-âkhirah wa rahîmahumâ, tu'thî minhumâ man
tasyâ', wa tamna'u minhumâ man tasyâ', iqdhi `annî daynî.
Wahai Yang Maha Pengasih dunia dan akhirat, Yang Maha Penyayang dunia
dan akhirat, Engkau memberikan dari keduanya apa yang Engkau
kehendaki, dan Engkau menahan dari keduanya apa yang Engkau kehendaki,
tunaikan hutangku.
Sekiranya kamu butuhkan bumi dipenuhi oleh emas, niscaya Allah
menunaikan hutangmu." (Tafsir Majma'ul Bayan)
Yang berminat tek arab ayat dan doa ini, dapat mengkopi dari:
http://syamsuri149.wordpress.com
http://shalatdoa.blogspot.com
Wassalam
Syamsuri Rifai
Tafsir tematik, keutamaan surat2 dan ayat 2 Al-Qur'an:
http://tafsirtematis.wordpress.com
Monday, June 16, 2008
Mengetahui Masa Subur Isteri
Mengetahui masa subur isteri
Kaum wanita pada setiap 4 minggu (28 hari) sekali datang haid. Masanya berbeza. Perbezaan masa bergantung kepada keadaan badan seseorang. Daripada haid yang pertama hingga haid yang berikutnya dapat kita bahagikan kepada 4 tahap:
1. Masa haid
2. Masa bersih pertama; kandungan rahim sudah bersih dari kotoran tapi sel wanita belum dapat dibuahi untuk menjadi benih.
3. Masa subur; kandungan rahim sedia untuk menerima sel benih, yang akan memberhentikan kedatangan haid.
4. Masa bersih kedua; masa penghancuran. Alat-alat dalam rahim mulai membersihkan kerana tiada pembuahan dan menanti datang haid yang baru.
Ringkasnya, minggu I, II dan IV adalah minggu kosong, tetapi minggu ke III adalah minggu subur. Untuk mengetahui dengan tepat waktu subur bagi seorang wanita, haruslah mengetahui masa kedatangan haid pada setiap bulan, untuk menyesuaikan waktu 14-16 hari sebelum datang haid sebelum datang haid yang baru.
Apakah anda mempunyai jangka waktu bersih 28 hari 30 hari ataupun 32 hari. Menurut pendapat pakar kelamin, sel telur lelaki dapat hidup 2 X 24 jam sebelum 'masa subur' dan 2 X 24 jam sesudah 'masa subur’. Maksudnya 2 hari sebelum dan selepas 'masa subur', masih boleh menjadi benih bila bersetubuh pada masa itu. Jadi yang paling baik untuk memiliki anak ataupun menjarakkan kehamilan, haruslah melakukan persetubuhan berpandukan pada masa tersebut, iaitu 2 X 24 + 2 X 24 + 2 X 24 ataupun 2 hari + 2 hari + 2 hari - jumlah hari subur. Kesimpulannya, masa subur adalah dari hari ke 12 hingga hari ke 18 sebelum datang haid yang baru.
Selamat mencuba
Kaum wanita pada setiap 4 minggu (28 hari) sekali datang haid. Masanya berbeza. Perbezaan masa bergantung kepada keadaan badan seseorang. Daripada haid yang pertama hingga haid yang berikutnya dapat kita bahagikan kepada 4 tahap:
1. Masa haid
2. Masa bersih pertama; kandungan rahim sudah bersih dari kotoran tapi sel wanita belum dapat dibuahi untuk menjadi benih.
3. Masa subur; kandungan rahim sedia untuk menerima sel benih, yang akan memberhentikan kedatangan haid.
4. Masa bersih kedua; masa penghancuran. Alat-alat dalam rahim mulai membersihkan kerana tiada pembuahan dan menanti datang haid yang baru.
Ringkasnya, minggu I, II dan IV adalah minggu kosong, tetapi minggu ke III adalah minggu subur. Untuk mengetahui dengan tepat waktu subur bagi seorang wanita, haruslah mengetahui masa kedatangan haid pada setiap bulan, untuk menyesuaikan waktu 14-16 hari sebelum datang haid sebelum datang haid yang baru.
Apakah anda mempunyai jangka waktu bersih 28 hari 30 hari ataupun 32 hari. Menurut pendapat pakar kelamin, sel telur lelaki dapat hidup 2 X 24 jam sebelum 'masa subur' dan 2 X 24 jam sesudah 'masa subur’. Maksudnya 2 hari sebelum dan selepas 'masa subur', masih boleh menjadi benih bila bersetubuh pada masa itu. Jadi yang paling baik untuk memiliki anak ataupun menjarakkan kehamilan, haruslah melakukan persetubuhan berpandukan pada masa tersebut, iaitu 2 X 24 + 2 X 24 + 2 X 24 ataupun 2 hari + 2 hari + 2 hari - jumlah hari subur. Kesimpulannya, masa subur adalah dari hari ke 12 hingga hari ke 18 sebelum datang haid yang baru.
Selamat mencuba
Hati Seikhlas Kelapa Tua
Satu cerita untuk renungan bersama. KELAPA TUA:
Semua orang kenal dan tahu pula gunanya. Sangat penting dan sangat berguna
Kewujudannya tidak dipeduli dan tidak diendahkan dan kelapa tua tak pernah jadi topik perbincangan, tak pernah dikaitkan dengan apa-apa isu atau masalah. Kalau kelapa tua ada emosi, tidak ramai yang dapat merasai dan menyelam perasaannya.
Kelapa tua pula tidak pernah susah hati kalau orang tidak pedulikannya. Dirinya terbuai-buai di atas pokok, bila ditiup angin terasa nyaman sekali. Elok-elok kelapa tergantung di pokoknya sambil menikmati keindahan buana, datang orang menjoloknya dengan galah panjang. Bukan selesa kena jolok macam tu.
Bila tangkainya menjadi lemah setelah dijolok beberapa kali, maka gugurlah kelapa tua itu berpusing-berpusing ke bumi. Gugur itu pula bukannya rendah, bukan setakat 5-10 kaki tapi sehingga 40-50 kaki. Bunyinya berdentum sampai ketanah. Kalau calang-calang buah, boleh berkecai.Kalau kepala orang, boleh bersepai otak.
Masalah kelapa tua bukan setakat ini sahaja. Dia dikutip dan kulit sabutnya dikoyak-koyak dan dibuang sedikit demi sedikit dengan parang cangkuk. Proses ini bukan sekadar sekali tetak. Berpuluh-puluh kali parang cangkuk itu menusuk kedalam kulit sabutnya. Seksanya tak boleh nak cerita. Mula-mula sakit tusukan, lepas itu sakit dikoyak dan disiat-siat dan ini berterusan sehingga tinggal tempurung. Dah tinggal tempurung, maka tak apalah. Cantik juga rupanya, keras dan bulat. Tetapi manusia bukan tahu nak menilai seni seperti ini.
Tempurung bulat yang cantik ditetak dengan parang dengan sebegitu kuat hingga terbelah dua, di tengah-tengahnya. Maka tersemburlah dan mengalirlah air jernih dari dalam perutnya dan terdedahlah isinya yang putih bersih.
Bagi kebanyakan kehidupan yang lain, kalau sampai tahap ini maka selesailah riwayat hidupnya. Tetapi bagi kelapa tua, ini baru permulaan. Baru muqaddimah. Banyak lagi seksaan yang menanti.
Tak cukup dengan menyemburkan air dari dalam perutnya dan mendedahkan isinya, isinya yang putih bersih diparut dan dikukur pula hingga lumat. Tempurungnya pula dibuang. Kadang-kadang dibakar. Bentuk asal kelapa tua sudah tidak ada lagi. Yang tinggal hanyalah isinya yang lumat dikukur dan diparut.
Untuk menambah seksanya lagi , dituang pula air kedalam isi parut, kemudian diramas-ramas dan diperah-perah. Kalau hendak dikirakan ini sudah terkeluar dari batas-batas keperimanusiaan. Kemudian ditapis menjadi santan. Kelapa tua yang dulunya keras dan bulat kini sudah
menjadi cecair yang putih.
Setelah itu minyak dipanaskan dalam belanga. Bawang merah, rempah dan rencah-rencah lain ditumis. Bila dah cukup kuning dituanglah santan tadi dalam belanga. Maka berpanasanlah santan hingga pecah minyaknya. Apabila sudah masak dan bau harumnya merebak ke seluruh ceruk rumah, maka orang pun bertanya: "Gulai apa tu? Sedap sangat baunya?
Orang di dapur hanya menjawab,"Kari ikan bawal." Kari dapat nama. Ikan bawal dapat nama. Orang kata,"Oh! sedap kari ni." "Oh! sedap ikan bawal ni."
Jasa kelapa tua tenggelam begitu sahaja. Perjalanan dan pengalamannya yang begitu panjang dan menyeksakan dari sebiji kelapa tua di atas pokok yang tinggi hingga ke belanga yang panas berbahang, tidak ada siapa ambil kira atau ambil peduli.
Alangkah indahnya kalau kita dapat berjasa seperti kelapa tua ini. Jasa-jasa bukan untuk dipuji dan dipuja tetapi ta'abud kepada ALLAH. Biarlah jasa-jasa kita tidak nampak di mata orang, tetapi ada dalam perhatian Tuhan!
Semua orang kenal dan tahu pula gunanya. Sangat penting dan sangat berguna
Kewujudannya tidak dipeduli dan tidak diendahkan dan kelapa tua tak pernah jadi topik perbincangan, tak pernah dikaitkan dengan apa-apa isu atau masalah. Kalau kelapa tua ada emosi, tidak ramai yang dapat merasai dan menyelam perasaannya.
Kelapa tua pula tidak pernah susah hati kalau orang tidak pedulikannya. Dirinya terbuai-buai di atas pokok, bila ditiup angin terasa nyaman sekali. Elok-elok kelapa tergantung di pokoknya sambil menikmati keindahan buana, datang orang menjoloknya dengan galah panjang. Bukan selesa kena jolok macam tu.
Bila tangkainya menjadi lemah setelah dijolok beberapa kali, maka gugurlah kelapa tua itu berpusing-berpusing ke bumi. Gugur itu pula bukannya rendah, bukan setakat 5-10 kaki tapi sehingga 40-50 kaki. Bunyinya berdentum sampai ketanah. Kalau calang-calang buah, boleh berkecai.Kalau kepala orang, boleh bersepai otak.
Masalah kelapa tua bukan setakat ini sahaja. Dia dikutip dan kulit sabutnya dikoyak-koyak dan dibuang sedikit demi sedikit dengan parang cangkuk. Proses ini bukan sekadar sekali tetak. Berpuluh-puluh kali parang cangkuk itu menusuk kedalam kulit sabutnya. Seksanya tak boleh nak cerita. Mula-mula sakit tusukan, lepas itu sakit dikoyak dan disiat-siat dan ini berterusan sehingga tinggal tempurung. Dah tinggal tempurung, maka tak apalah. Cantik juga rupanya, keras dan bulat. Tetapi manusia bukan tahu nak menilai seni seperti ini.
Tempurung bulat yang cantik ditetak dengan parang dengan sebegitu kuat hingga terbelah dua, di tengah-tengahnya. Maka tersemburlah dan mengalirlah air jernih dari dalam perutnya dan terdedahlah isinya yang putih bersih.
Bagi kebanyakan kehidupan yang lain, kalau sampai tahap ini maka selesailah riwayat hidupnya. Tetapi bagi kelapa tua, ini baru permulaan. Baru muqaddimah. Banyak lagi seksaan yang menanti.
Tak cukup dengan menyemburkan air dari dalam perutnya dan mendedahkan isinya, isinya yang putih bersih diparut dan dikukur pula hingga lumat. Tempurungnya pula dibuang. Kadang-kadang dibakar. Bentuk asal kelapa tua sudah tidak ada lagi. Yang tinggal hanyalah isinya yang lumat dikukur dan diparut.
Untuk menambah seksanya lagi , dituang pula air kedalam isi parut, kemudian diramas-ramas dan diperah-perah. Kalau hendak dikirakan ini sudah terkeluar dari batas-batas keperimanusiaan. Kemudian ditapis menjadi santan. Kelapa tua yang dulunya keras dan bulat kini sudah
menjadi cecair yang putih.
Setelah itu minyak dipanaskan dalam belanga. Bawang merah, rempah dan rencah-rencah lain ditumis. Bila dah cukup kuning dituanglah santan tadi dalam belanga. Maka berpanasanlah santan hingga pecah minyaknya. Apabila sudah masak dan bau harumnya merebak ke seluruh ceruk rumah, maka orang pun bertanya: "Gulai apa tu? Sedap sangat baunya?
Orang di dapur hanya menjawab,"Kari ikan bawal." Kari dapat nama. Ikan bawal dapat nama. Orang kata,"Oh! sedap kari ni." "Oh! sedap ikan bawal ni."
Jasa kelapa tua tenggelam begitu sahaja. Perjalanan dan pengalamannya yang begitu panjang dan menyeksakan dari sebiji kelapa tua di atas pokok yang tinggi hingga ke belanga yang panas berbahang, tidak ada siapa ambil kira atau ambil peduli.
Alangkah indahnya kalau kita dapat berjasa seperti kelapa tua ini. Jasa-jasa bukan untuk dipuji dan dipuja tetapi ta'abud kepada ALLAH. Biarlah jasa-jasa kita tidak nampak di mata orang, tetapi ada dalam perhatian Tuhan!
My Birthday!! 15th JUNE
Wowwee....
HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO ME!!! HAPPY BDAY TO ME... HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO ME... HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO ME!!!!... Looks pathetic? Nobody wished me??
Heheh... nope... this year i received quite a lot of wishes.. especially from my cyber firends whom i have never met before... but their wishes brighten up my day....
I'm really not good in putting my thots into words... i have a lot to tell here but don't know how and where to start... arrghhh... take a break!!
HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO ME!!! HAPPY BDAY TO ME... HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO ME... HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO ME!!!!... Looks pathetic? Nobody wished me??
Heheh... nope... this year i received quite a lot of wishes.. especially from my cyber firends whom i have never met before... but their wishes brighten up my day....
I'm really not good in putting my thots into words... i have a lot to tell here but don't know how and where to start... arrghhh... take a break!!
Thursday, April 17, 2008
To All Married Couples and Singles Who Intend To Get Married
- Author Unknown -
(Worth reading this)
When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, "I've got something to tell you."
She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes. Suddenly I didn't know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking.
"I want a divorce." I raised the topic calmly.
She didn't seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, "why?"
I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, "you are not a man!"
That night, we didn't talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; I had lost my heart to a lovely girl called Dew. I didn't love her anymore. I just pitied her!
With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, 30% shares of my company and the car. She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Dew so dearly. Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now.
The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn't have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Dew. When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again.
In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn't want anything from me, but needed a month's notice before the divorce. She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a months time and she didn't want to disrupt him with our broken marriage.
This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day. She requested that everyday for the month's duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever morning. I thought she was going crazy.
Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request. I told Dew about my wife s divorce conditions. She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd.
"No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce," she said scornfully.
My wife and I hadn't had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy.
Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mummy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; " don't tell our son about the divorce."
I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.
On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest.. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn't looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her.
On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning... This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me. On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn't tell Dew about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger.
She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily. Suddenly it hit me; she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart.
Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head. Our son came in at the moment and said, "Dad, it's time to carry mum out."
To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day. But her much lighter weight made me sad.
On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn't noticed that our life lacked intimacy. I drove to office... jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind... I walked upstairs.
Dew opened the door and I said to her, "Sorry, Dew, I do not want the divorce anymore."
She looked at me, astonished. Then touched my forehead.
"Do you have a fever?" She said.I moved her hand off my head.
" Sorry, Dew, I said, I won't divorce."
My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn't value the details of our lives, not because we didn't love each other any more. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death does us apart.
Dew seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away. At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote:
'I'll carry you out every morning until death do us apart'
The small details of our lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, the property, the bank balance that matters. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves. So find time to be your spouse's friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage!
If you don't share this, nothing will happen to you, but if you do, you just might save a marriage.
Relationships are made not to exploit, not to be broken.
We teach some by what we say, we teach some more by what we do But we teach most by what we are
- Unknown-
You don't get to choose how you are going to die, or when, but, you can decide how you are going to live, here and now.
Remember:
People will forget what you said ... people will forget what you did ...
But people will never forget how you made them feel....
'You Have to Learn Lessons Also from Others Mistakes because you will Not Get Time to Do All the Mistakes on Your Own'
(Worth reading this)
When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, "I've got something to tell you."
She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes. Suddenly I didn't know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking.
"I want a divorce." I raised the topic calmly.
She didn't seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, "why?"
I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, "you are not a man!"
That night, we didn't talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; I had lost my heart to a lovely girl called Dew. I didn't love her anymore. I just pitied her!
With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, 30% shares of my company and the car. She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Dew so dearly. Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now.
The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn't have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Dew. When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again.
In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn't want anything from me, but needed a month's notice before the divorce. She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a months time and she didn't want to disrupt him with our broken marriage.
This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day. She requested that everyday for the month's duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever morning. I thought she was going crazy.
Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request. I told Dew about my wife s divorce conditions. She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd.
"No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce," she said scornfully.
My wife and I hadn't had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy.
Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mummy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; " don't tell our son about the divorce."
I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.
On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest.. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn't looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her.
On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning... This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me. On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn't tell Dew about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger.
She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily. Suddenly it hit me; she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart.
Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head. Our son came in at the moment and said, "Dad, it's time to carry mum out."
To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day. But her much lighter weight made me sad.
On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn't noticed that our life lacked intimacy. I drove to office... jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind... I walked upstairs.
Dew opened the door and I said to her, "Sorry, Dew, I do not want the divorce anymore."
She looked at me, astonished. Then touched my forehead.
"Do you have a fever?" She said.I moved her hand off my head.
" Sorry, Dew, I said, I won't divorce."
My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn't value the details of our lives, not because we didn't love each other any more. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death does us apart.
Dew seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away. At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote:
'I'll carry you out every morning until death do us apart'
The small details of our lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, the property, the bank balance that matters. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves. So find time to be your spouse's friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage!
If you don't share this, nothing will happen to you, but if you do, you just might save a marriage.
Relationships are made not to exploit, not to be broken.
We teach some by what we say, we teach some more by what we do But we teach most by what we are
- Unknown-
You don't get to choose how you are going to die, or when, but, you can decide how you are going to live, here and now.
Remember:
People will forget what you said ... people will forget what you did ...
But people will never forget how you made them feel....
'You Have to Learn Lessons Also from Others Mistakes because you will Not Get Time to Do All the Mistakes on Your Own'
Kalau Dahi tak Mencecah Sejadah Didunia.....
Dear all, may Allah bless us all with Hidayah and the right path, amin
Kalau Dahi tak Mencecah Sejadah Didunia..... .
Assalam Mu'alaikum !
Sudah Bersediakah Anda Ketika Dipanggil Pulang Oleh Allah SWT?!!!
Bersihkanlah dirimu sebelum kamu dimandikan!
Berwudhu'lah kamu sebelum kamu diwudhu'kan!
Bersolatlah kamu sebelum kamu disolatkan!
Tutuplah rambutmu sebelum rambutmu ditutupkan!
Dengan kain kafan yang serba putih!
Pada waktu itu tidak guna lagi bersedih....
Walaupun orang yang hadir itu merintih....
Selepas itu kamu akan diletak di atas lantai....
Lalu dilaksanakanlah solat Jenazah
Dengan empat kali takbir dan satu salam
Berserta Fatihah, Selawat dan doa....
Sebagai memenuhi tuntutan Fardhu Kifayah
Tapi apakah empat kali takbir itu dapat menebus....
Segala dosa meninggalkan solat sepanjang hidup?
Apakah solat Jenazah yang tanpa rukuk dan sujud....
Dapat membayar hutang rukuk dan sujudmu yang telah luput?
Sungguh tertipulah dirimu jika beranggapan demikian....
Justeru ku menyeru sekelian Muslimin dan Muslimat....
Usunglah dirimu ke tikar Solat....
Sebelum kamu diusung ke liang lahad....
Menjadi makanan cacing dan mamahan ulat!
Iringilah dirimu ke masjid....
Sebelum kamu diiringi ke Pusara!
Tangisilah dosa-dosamu di dunia....
Kerana tangisan tidak berguna lagi di alam baqa'!
Sucikanlah dirimu sebelum kamu disucikan!
Sedarlah kamu sebelum kamu disedarkan.. ..
Dengan panggilan 'Izrail yang menakutkan!
Berimanlah kamu sebelum kamu ditalkinkan!
Kerana ianya berguna untuk yang tinggal....
Bukan yang pergi!
Beristighfarlah kamu sebelum kamu diistighfarkan!
Namun ketika itu istighfar tidak menyelamatkan!
Ingatlah di mana saja kamu berada....
Kamu tetap memijak bumi Tuhan!
Dan dibumbungi dengan langit Tuhan!
Serta menikmati rezeki Tuhan!
Justeru bila Dia menyeru,....
Sambutlah seruan-Nya Sebelum Dia....
memanggilmu buat kali yang terakhirnya!
Ingatlah kamu dahulu hanya....
setitis air yang tidak bererti!
Lalu menjadi segumpal darah!
Lalu menjadi seketul daging!
Lalu daging itu membaluti tulang!
Lalu jadilah kamu insan yang mempunyai erti....
Ingatlah asal usulmu yang tidak bernilai itu....
Yang kalau jatuh ke tanah Ayam tak patuk itik tak sudu!
Tapi Allah mengangkatmu ke suatu mercu....
Yang lebih agung dari malaikat!
Lahirmu bukan untuk dunia....
Tapi gunakanlah ia buat melayar bahtera akhirat!
Sambutlah seruan 'Hayya 'alas Solaah'....
Dengan penuh rela dan bersedia!
Sambutlah seruan 'Hayya 'alal Falaah'....
Jalan kemenangan akhirat dan dunia!
Ingatlah yang kekal ialah amal....
Menjadi bekal sepanjang jalan!
Menjadi teman di perjalanan.. ..
Guna kembali ke pangkuan Tuhan!
Pada hari itu tiada berguna....
Harta, tahta dan putera....
Isteri, kad kredit dan kereta....
Kondominium, saham dan niaga....
Kalau dahi tak mencecah sejadah di dunia!!!
" Saling berpesan-pesan untuk kearah kebaikkan"
Kalau Dahi tak Mencecah Sejadah Didunia..... .
Assalam Mu'alaikum !
Sudah Bersediakah Anda Ketika Dipanggil Pulang Oleh Allah SWT?!!!
Bersihkanlah dirimu sebelum kamu dimandikan!
Berwudhu'lah kamu sebelum kamu diwudhu'kan!
Bersolatlah kamu sebelum kamu disolatkan!
Tutuplah rambutmu sebelum rambutmu ditutupkan!
Dengan kain kafan yang serba putih!
Pada waktu itu tidak guna lagi bersedih....
Walaupun orang yang hadir itu merintih....
Selepas itu kamu akan diletak di atas lantai....
Lalu dilaksanakanlah solat Jenazah
Dengan empat kali takbir dan satu salam
Berserta Fatihah, Selawat dan doa....
Sebagai memenuhi tuntutan Fardhu Kifayah
Tapi apakah empat kali takbir itu dapat menebus....
Segala dosa meninggalkan solat sepanjang hidup?
Apakah solat Jenazah yang tanpa rukuk dan sujud....
Dapat membayar hutang rukuk dan sujudmu yang telah luput?
Sungguh tertipulah dirimu jika beranggapan demikian....
Justeru ku menyeru sekelian Muslimin dan Muslimat....
Usunglah dirimu ke tikar Solat....
Sebelum kamu diusung ke liang lahad....
Menjadi makanan cacing dan mamahan ulat!
Iringilah dirimu ke masjid....
Sebelum kamu diiringi ke Pusara!
Tangisilah dosa-dosamu di dunia....
Kerana tangisan tidak berguna lagi di alam baqa'!
Sucikanlah dirimu sebelum kamu disucikan!
Sedarlah kamu sebelum kamu disedarkan.. ..
Dengan panggilan 'Izrail yang menakutkan!
Berimanlah kamu sebelum kamu ditalkinkan!
Kerana ianya berguna untuk yang tinggal....
Bukan yang pergi!
Beristighfarlah kamu sebelum kamu diistighfarkan!
Namun ketika itu istighfar tidak menyelamatkan!
Ingatlah di mana saja kamu berada....
Kamu tetap memijak bumi Tuhan!
Dan dibumbungi dengan langit Tuhan!
Serta menikmati rezeki Tuhan!
Justeru bila Dia menyeru,....
Sambutlah seruan-Nya Sebelum Dia....
memanggilmu buat kali yang terakhirnya!
Ingatlah kamu dahulu hanya....
setitis air yang tidak bererti!
Lalu menjadi segumpal darah!
Lalu menjadi seketul daging!
Lalu daging itu membaluti tulang!
Lalu jadilah kamu insan yang mempunyai erti....
Ingatlah asal usulmu yang tidak bernilai itu....
Yang kalau jatuh ke tanah Ayam tak patuk itik tak sudu!
Tapi Allah mengangkatmu ke suatu mercu....
Yang lebih agung dari malaikat!
Lahirmu bukan untuk dunia....
Tapi gunakanlah ia buat melayar bahtera akhirat!
Sambutlah seruan 'Hayya 'alas Solaah'....
Dengan penuh rela dan bersedia!
Sambutlah seruan 'Hayya 'alal Falaah'....
Jalan kemenangan akhirat dan dunia!
Ingatlah yang kekal ialah amal....
Menjadi bekal sepanjang jalan!
Menjadi teman di perjalanan.. ..
Guna kembali ke pangkuan Tuhan!
Pada hari itu tiada berguna....
Harta, tahta dan putera....
Isteri, kad kredit dan kereta....
Kondominium, saham dan niaga....
Kalau dahi tak mencecah sejadah di dunia!!!
" Saling berpesan-pesan untuk kearah kebaikkan"
Sunday, February 24, 2008
Our New Joy - 14 Feb 2008, Nur Sabrina
Salam to all...Had been trying to post an entry wth regards to this precious lil'one but seems time is not always on my side.
At this time when i just hit the keyboard, she is already crying to be picked up...
Well, just a short intro on NUR SABRINA bt MOHD KHALID... born on 14/02/2008 at 10.42pm @ SJMC, weighing at 3.90kg, she is my largest kid tht i gave birth to.
The pix above is taken right after birth...
Well, GTG... her cries is getting louder n louder... will cont' later.
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